A survey in 2015 revealed that 14583 fostered young people had experienced a placement move in that year. More than 4000 of those children had moved foster homes three or more times in that one year. Sadly, and for many reasons, placement moves are common for young people in the care system.
Here is our son’s views on his experience of school and home moves.
Moving placements is a tough topic and believe me I know! I have moved foster homes 3 times and school placements 4 times! I know what it feels like to move school because I went to an infant school and then moved to another infant and primary school, and then a secondary school and now the school I’m in.
I think that it’s tough arriving at a new school but it’s much harder to leave the familiar. I remember at first feeling really upset and then angry with myself so I tried to push everybody that cared about me away. I can imagine that was hard for my brothers Hayden and Shane and Mum Fi and Mom G.
All of these moves sadly meant that I got used to people pushing me away. When I met my last foster parents I made the first few months hell for them because I expected them to push me away and get rid of me. After a year they did get rid of me even after promising that they would not get rid of me ever.
I then I was in a permanent mindset that I would always get pushed away. This first started when my birth dad told me he would never let ‘them’ (social workers) take me.
When I got to Mum Fi and Mom G’s house I pushed them away so that they would push me away and then I would be right about how adults will always push me away.
If I could change two things I would change my attitude towards other adults and not presume that every adult is like the ones who got rid of me.
I would also change how I left my primary school because I am now in a school situation where I don’t get to talk to other teens and I find that hard
But I’ve learnt that if you do move schools it’s not really about leaving but about how you leave.
And if you leave a foster placement it’s because some foster parents find things too challenging and you will eventually find your forever family.
So stay strong!
From Scott x